We finally made it over the hill and know we are going out in style! After years of struggling with my husbands family we have now decided our family is in our home.
Please, let me explain. After moving 35 miles away and moving to another town away from my husbands family and a two year hiatus from their presence my Mother-in-law tells my husband she needs time to be kind to me. I have NEVER done or said anything out of the way to this woman in seventeen years of marriage to my husband. Me and hubby have pondered the reasons why she dislikes me so, and just can't find a purpose at all. So, we are bowing out in respect to trying to please her.
Does it seem right to say you love your children but disrespect the person they decide to spend the rest of their life with? I think not! Being a mother of four myself, I haven't always liked the choices my children have made. However foolish I believe there choices are I am still kind and loving toward them and their significant others. Loving them unconditionally through it all.
I believe that if you have to ask someone to give you time before you can treat them with kindness,(conditional love) you are the one with the problem. It's not fair to ask someone to wait for your kindness. It's also very manipulative. What kind of person would do that? I just don't understand, therefore I'm out. I will not be treated like a disease because someone else has a problem with showing love. It's not my fault they can't accept or give love. Love is the one thing in this world that doesn't cost a thing and is free to all who can/wants to have it.
Thank you for letting me vent out my woes by blogging. If anyone reads this and has a comment, please say what you feel. I feel wonderful now that we have found resolve in this situation.